Saturday, March 28, 2020


I bought toilet paper today.

After several weeks of searching, I got a tip... the local drug store had some. I arrived 15 minutes before opening- a lady ran down the aisle ahead of me... and on the bottom shelf- in the back... two packages left. I handed her one. She was grateful. I hugged mine as I walked out- wondered if I would get jumped on my way to the car.

What is going on in our world today? It is crazy. My mom told me stories of what her parents were like, why they would reuse aluminum foil... because they lived in the great depression.

We are all quarantined into our homes- told to practice social distancing- and stay 6ft away from everyone.

People are dying. Others, like me, are worried about loved ones. Worried about their children. Worried about whether life will return to normal again.

How will this change us? Will handshakes become a thing of the past like tipping the hat. How will schools change? Will we accelerate the blended world- perhaps schools serve more functions than simply giving children knowledge and skills- maybe they give parents a break and give them the means to have jobs... did you hear the story of the man and his neighbor?

This will not be perfect, but here it goes...

A man had a farm. One day his horse ran away. The neighbor came over and said, "Awe what bad luck, your horse ran away. I am sorry for you."

The man replied, "Could be bad, could be good. Who knows?"

The next day the horse came back and brought a second horse with him. The nosy neighbor came over again and said:

:Look you used to have one horse, now you have two. What great luck!"

The man replied, "Could be good, could be bad. Who knows?"

The next day the new horse kicked his son and broke his leg. To which the nosy neighbor came over and said, "Oh, what bad luck. The horse broke your sins leg... I am so sorry.

The man said, "Could be bad, could be good. Who Knows?"

Last one for now... The next day all the young men in the country were asked to join the military because they were at war. The son was disqualified for he had a broken leg.

When I think about life, I want to remember that whether we can't find toilet paper, or find that our jobs are taken, or someone we trust hurts us, we are in the middle of the story. There is more. Life has so many beautiful moments- and sometimes they are hidden in the midst of the darkness. Sometimes it is really hard to see- and hope... Hope is a powerful thing.

Today, I found toilet paper.
Could be good, could be bad... who knows?

Tuesday, March 24, 2020

Crunchy Critiques and Communication Growth Pains

Many leaders have shared with me that when they gather feedback from their staffs one topic is familiar... communication. Be more concise, don't leave out detail, be timely, less is more, be more directive, and so on.

I cannot allow the opportunity to grow to pass me by. So I asked my supervisor for any resources she thought would help one improve in communication. I asked a few other folks too- sitting in front of me are several books now:

  • Better Conversations by Jim Knight
  • Difficult Conversations by Stone, Patton, and Heen
  • Crucial Conversations by Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, and Switzler
  • Fierce Conversations by Susan Scott
  • Radical Candor by Kim Scott
  • Primal Leadership by Goleman, Boyatzis and McKee
  • The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace by Chapman and White
I have started to read all of them- I enjoy when books begin to dove tail. I kind of chuckle when I see how many titles can contain conversations in them! Maybe we can write a few more... Uncomfortable Conversations, Unforgettable Conversations, or even something different like FANTASTIC CONVERSATIONS.

I have already seen some hope from this research- Primal Leadership shares how Emotional Intelligence can aid the leader in serving his or her staff... I want to get a Ph.D. in EQ now.

So as I begin this quest, wish me luck that these authors will help me grow.